Happy Weekend Everyone!
Yes it is that time of year again… whilst the weather continues to bite and snow threatens, Spring/ Summer 2016 is underway in the fashion world.
It is this time of the year, when bloggers of all disciplines suddenly become ‘Fashion Bloggers’ for the day in the hope of being given fun fashionable freebies to review, or being ‘spotted’ as the next Kate Moss.
(Due to not having tickets) I will not be joining them, but it did get me thinking about women and our complicated relationship with fashion.
Bypassing the minefield of issues that I have with body image in the fashion world, where a size 10 is often considered a plus size, I love to observe how powerful fashion is at changing the overall mood of a person.
I don’t know if anyone ever saw ‘A Week Of Dressing Dangerously’ on BBC One? But I always remember an episode where one women spent a week wearing outrageous outfits, from pin-up to all in pink to bohemian, complete with dreds.
The transformation was incredible, this mousy woman felt liberated by her style and let go of herself. Her husband couldn’t believe who she had become and her family saw her in a whole new light. In short, fashion enabled her to let go of all her inhibitions and she was able to just have fun with it.
Fashion doesn’t have always be so serious, sometime it is just fun for fun’s sake. We need to shrug off the judgmental snobbery and let go of what is ‘in-vogue’ and out.
Saying that, I don’t consider myself the most ‘stylish’ of women. I get by on what I call a ‘classical’ style mainly wearing a lot of black dresses and red lipstick. Though I would love pull off the high- end fashionista look, I just don’t have the time or the patience to invest in it. Plus I know that I am just not that cool.
The most stylish woman in my life is my mother. A woman who also wears a lot of black but doesn’t care what people think; she hates to follow fashions, loves colourful accessories and calls everyone ‘darling’. But it works well for her. It is what makes her unique.
My mother grew up in the 70’s working in the glamorous casinos of the West End, at a time when sexual equality was non-existent and you could get a ‘warning’ for not looking ‘dolled up enough’ or gaining weight. She would proudly tell me that she always looked immaculate for work, which to me felt like she was bowing to the pressure of a sexist and superficial organisation.
But she would always say the same thing (and it is a lesson that I have carried through my own working life):
“Clothes do more than just make you pretty. They can make you feel strong. Your dress is your armour and your make-up is your war paint. With these on you can go into work battle-ready.”
And she is so right.
Which is why every working day, no matter how I feel, – I put on mascara, throw on a pair of heels and smarten up with a jacket. And it always makes me feel ready to take on the world.
So whilst there are some that feel fashion as superficial, trivial and, in some cases, a way of objectifying women – true ‘fashion’, the fashion that we make for ourselves, is a way to have fun, show off and above all feel good about ourselves.
Do you agree? Why not share your own fashion secrets…